2018
June FROM MY PERSPECTIVE
I was telling my
sweet daughter, Della, that someone had told me I had OCD (obsessive compulsive
disorder). She laughed and said, “No
Mom, you have CDO.” I thought for a
while and then asked her, “What is CDO?”
She grinned saying, “OCD, but in alphabetical order.”
We live in a world
in which we need to share responsibility. It's easy to say "It's not my
child, not my community, not my world, not my problem." Then there are
those who see the need and respond. I consider those people my heroes. -Fred
Rogers, television host, songwriter, and author (20 Mar 1928-2003)
When you are
focused about hiding certain things, you get sloppy about other things.
I’ve come across
some adages, also known as laws, in my years.
HANLON’S LAW: “Never attribute to
malice that which can be adequately explained by stupidity.” MURPHY’S LAW:
“Anything which can go wrong will go wrong." SEAGAL’S LAW:
“Assumption is the mother of all screw-ups.” COLE’S LAW:
When something solid is shredded----like a head of cabbage.
While
watching a favorite program of mine, I was introduced to an ethics I was not
aware of by the term, but by the action of it.
DEONTOLOGICAL ETHICS: “people who
are committed to doing their absolute best for people who depend on them, no
matter what the consequences.” That is
what the actor stated as the definition.
The actual dictionary definition is:
Deontology states that an act that is not good morally can lead to
something good, such as shooting the intruder (killing is wrong) to protect
your family (protecting them is right). According to Kant, morality is affected
by rational thought more so than by emotion.
I
think about the people I’ve encountered who are in this category: my parents, some teacher colleagues,
firefighting personnel, and emergency room doctors and nurses. I’m sure you have encountered someone who
practices deontological ethics.
I
play a solitary word game just about every day.
It is used on my Nintendo DS. It
was my daughter’s, but after playing it for a week or so, I told her she’d
probably never get it back because I just love it. She agreed it was mine FOREVER. While playing it, I’ve come across many
anagrams----A word or
phrase formed by rearranging the letters of another word or phrase. The English
word anagram goes
back to 1589. I’ve broadened my horizon
and now try to think of multiple words together which are anagrams. I find it interesting that some words and
group of words are related somehow. Here
are a few: Villainousness: an
evil soul's sin; parliament:
partial men; George Bush: He bugs
Gore; Clint Eastwood: Old West
action; slot machines: cash lost in
‘em; punishment: nine thumps; the eyes: they see; togas: goats; this: hits:
sh**: election results: lies—let’s
recount; eleven plus two: twelve plus
one; dormitory: dirty room
This question was
posed to me: “Have you ever gone out of
your way to help someone and then find out how ungrateful they really
are?” I have and told the individual who
asked this, “Yes, I have. That is their
burden, not mine.”
When love and
skill work together, expect a masterpiece. -John Ruskin, author, art critic,
and social reformer (8 Feb 1819-1900) The list is endless with works of art,
acting, music, sports, and even parenting.
In April I
mentioned “wandering” after posting: “Not all those who wander are lost.”
-J.R.R. Tolkien, novelist and philologist.
I told of my sweet Daddy’s wandering adventures in the hardware store
and letting me tag along giving me an education I’d not thought about. Some of my readers replied to my tale. It seems I’m not the only one who finds going
to the hardware store an interesting adventure.
One told me they’ve asked their hubby to stroll with them down the aisles
and explain some of the products. To her
dismay, he goes, gets what he came for and then leaves. I told her I’d go with her and channel Daddy
as we picked up things and talked about them.
One told me, “I have always loved to tootle
around Nena's on Forrest Hill. It has everything and in a smaller area than the
big box stores. The people who work there actually know what you need and where
it can be located. They even know what a “thingamabob” is and how it is
used.” I shared, “I stumped one of them
with a ‘What's-a-majigger’. You should have seen the look I got. I think he was all of 20. But, if
you ask an old soul, they'll know right away. We speak the same language,
evidently.”
I often have stuff
that comes out of my mouth that sounded fine in my head. However, once it is
out even I am like "what?".
I was explaining
to my girlfriend’s son that his mom’s car had some panel lights come on for a
reason I wasn’t sure of. He told me to
unfasten the gas cap and put it back on, and that could be the reason for the
lights. I did and it wasn’t secure as I
thought it should be. I told him, “I
pushed and screwed, pushed and screwed to no avail. The lights are still coming on and the gas
cap is loose.” As I was telling him, he
kept trying very hard not to laugh. I
asked him what was so funny. He said,
“Your description of what you were doing was rather carnal.” I thought and started to laugh, too.
Some observances to
ponder: “I don’t have time to worry
about who doesn’t like me…..I’m too busy loving the people who love me.” “Education is not the learning of facts, but
the training of the mind to think.”
“There are two things to remember in life: Take care of your thoughts when you are
alone, and take care of your words when you are with people.” “I’ve seen better days, but I’ve also seen
worse. I don’t have everything I want,
but I do have all I need and want all I have.
I awakened with some aches and pains, but I awakened. My life may not be perfect, but I am
blessed.” The last one is my on-going
thought. I had a friend who always
complained about work/job, family, the day, etc. One day I’d had enough and said, “You’ve
complained about your work……there are many who don’t have a job and an
income. You’ve complained about your family…..there
are many who’d love to have a family who love and tolerate them. You’ve complained about the day…………YOU
AWAKENED this morning-----some haven’t.”
They were very quiet.
PEACE and
BLESSINGS TO YOU……………….Trudy J
