🍀 💖💖2023 March FROM MY PERSPECTIVE
Brenduhh came over with a
very smug look on her face. I knew just
by looking at her, she was mighty proud of herself about something. “Hi kiddo!
You look mighty proud of yourself about something. Do you want to tell me all about it?” I
asked. “Oh Trudy, I’m so tired of my
hubby slyly putting me down. Two days
ago, he gave me a roll of toilet paper.
On the wrapper it said, ‘WORD-A-DAY toilet paper’. I asked him why he gave it to me. He said, ‘Well, you think you know so much;
so this will help you learn more when you use it.’ I didn’t say anything to him. Today I found some toilet paper that had math
problems on each sheet. I bought it and
gave it to him,” she boasted. “What was
the reason you’d do that?” I asked. She
puffed herself all up and said, “Well, now he can get more information and put
it where his brain is. He’ll truly be a
smart ass,” she crowed. Hmmm, I can
tell wisdom has been chasing her, but she’s always so fast.
I found this and as an
English major and teacher, it really does make sense. Our language and phonics is difficult. This will prove it. The Correct Way To Spell Potato:
If GH can stand for P as in "hiccough," and OUGH can stand for O as
in "dough," and PHTH can stand for T as in "phthisis," and
EIGH can stand for A as in "neighbor," and TTE can stand for T as in
"gazette," and EAU can stand for O as in "plateau"...Then the correct way to spell potato
would be: GHOUGHPHTHEIGHTTEEAU--------POTATO
Recently a smarty pants
teen criticized me for not knowing how to work Snapchat or TiKTOK. I listened as they crowed on. Then I presented some every day things to do. I wrote them a long message in cursive script
and asked them to read it to me; took away their calculator and devised a math
problem (story problem style) for them to do; had them make change without the cash
register telling them how much change to give back to me; then, asked them to
tell me the exact time it was on my clock, which had numbers, a minute hand and
second hand. They struggled and got
frustrated. I mentioned to them, “These
are things I learned in school and am successful at doing. I’ll show you.” And with that statement, showed them. Booyahh!!
My friend called me. She and I enjoy most of the same music, and I
heard she was listening to WIPE OUT by The Surfers. I mentioned how upbeat it was and gave me
energy and at this time it was my song.
She laughed. “Oh Trudy, right now
I’m so tired that moving is a chore. My
song would be more SLOTH BOOGIE,” she groaned.
I have a friend who has
multiple back conditions: scoliosis,
retrolisthesis (a spinal alignment disorder causing some of her vertebrae to
shift outwards and away from her body), and disc degeneration. She was upset and a bit angry about all of it
as she told her sweet hubby about the dilemma for the day and how she was
feeling. He gave her a gentle hug and
said, “You’re pretty bent out of shape, today, sweetie.” He doesn’t usually say things which are
funny, but this gave her the laughter she needed. Laughter can ease discomfort, both mental and
physical.
One can’t be reasonable
and angry at the same time. Anger is a
wind that blows out the lamp of your mind.
Stay cool and you’ll rule. Have
you ever tried to gently touch someone when you’re angry? The gentle touch is not readily there, is it? Below is a statement from a famous writer and true example of this and their statement:
The single clenched fist lifted and ready, or the open
hand held out and waiting. Choose, For
we meet by one or the other. Carl Sandburg This reminds me of a situation I had to deal
with concerning a very angry, aggressive teen.
I’d denied the teen of what they wanted, patience was not their choice. So, angry words and aggressive body language
ensued from them. I stood in my place,
said a few words in a soft tone. As they
approached me with clenched fists, I held out both my hands with the palms
up. I asked them to put their hands on
top of mine and to wait. They did as I
asked, which surprised me because they were so angry and ready to hit. I told them I was going to gently touch their
back and give them a hug. Surprisingly
they allowed me to do as I told them I would.
I felt them relax and laying their head on my shoulder, they started to
cry saying, “I’m sorry, I’m sorry.” I
told them I knew they were and accepted their apology. My calmness transferred to them through my
hands. Peace was restored. You can NOT
gently touch someone when you’re angry.
I’ve mentioned that silence
can be a formidable weapon or the best answer.
It can, also, be an opinion---a pretty good one at times.
I had to post these warnings to others: Do NOT accept any requests from
Pillsbury....they owe me dough. Do NOT accept any requests from Hormel.....it
might be spam. Do not accept any requests from Jack, Jim, Johnny, Jose, or
Capt. Morgan......they're all drunk. Do not accept any requests from
Charmin.....her thinking is in the toilet.
Don’t accept any requests from Dove…..it flew the coop. Don’t accept any requests from Snickers,
either……it will just chuckle at you.
My friend came over for some comfort both editable
and emotional. She shared with me that
the relationship between her and her hubby was rocky and tumultuous. I gave her a cinnamon roll which I’d just
taken out of the oven and a cup of tea to help soothe her emotional angst. As she nibbled on the roll and sipped the
tea, she said, “I’m so fed up with him I’m about ready to call Jolene to come
and take my man!”
Did you know the best time on a clock is six
thirty? Hands down it’s the best time.
Sometimes through pains of life, we learn more than we realize. Here is an example a former student of mine said: "What is the saddest thing we endure in life? Watching our parents die, losing a spouse or loved one, watching a child die? I feel it's not being able to love. Without love, none of the rest matters. So if you grieve loss, know that you love(d) that person deeply, you were fortunate to share their life---feel blessed for that. Without great love, there isn't great loss. I’m not trying to remind anyone of their loss, only the love that you feel/felt."
"I woke this morning
wondering why I have such a problem loving people, and this is why. I have
experienced great loss. I never wanted anyone to get close so I would feel that
pain again. It gets cold out there in the world without love. Remember how it
felt to loose that? Then, remember someone out there loves you. Don't give in,
don't give up, never ever stop getting up, because someone loves you the way
you used to love someone else.” My
response to his realization: “Deep
thoughts, remembered pain, easing and enlightening revelations.” Thank you, Andy T.
You cannot do a kindness too soon because you never know how soon it will be too late. Ralph Waldo Emerson
